3 Benefits from a Night Away with your Husband
Spending time with your spouse is so important for a strong and healthy marriage.Check out these 3 benefits from a night away with your husband that will bless and build your marriage!!!
One of my goals this year was to go on an overnight date away with my husband. Since Monday was President’s Day and he had a three day weekend, we knew that this would be the perfect way to wrap up birthday week. With a little planning and scouting out some great deals, we were not only able to get away for a night but we are also able to do it on a budget too!
- We utilized Groupon to score a fantastic dinner at a local steakhouse that we don’t normally get to eat at very often since it’s so expensive.
- My husband worked his mad negotiating skills to nab a killer deal on a hotel room for one night (I’m also pretty sure that staying overnight on a Sunday night was beneficial too, save that tip for later!).
- Thanks to the family being more than willing to spend some extra time with the grandkids, we were able to receive free babysitting!
So while we did have to budget some money specifically for this overnight, a little planning and seeking out some great deals really made our buck travel far…. and it was so worth it!
If you haven’t planned an overnight getaway with your spouse, may I suggest that you try to plan one soon?
I realize not everyone can get away and that some budgets are really tight, but if you can swing it with some creative planning I know you and your husband would greatly benefit from 24 hours away from your kids.
So once you have a plan in place are away with your honey, how do you make the most of your time?
3 Benefits from a Night Away with Your Husband
My husband and I meet weekly to go over our calendars, the finances, and plans but sometimes the day-to-day duties of parenting, work, and home management can limit our vision of our big picture goals.
By spending intentional time away with just your husband, you are allowing to spend time specifically talking about, discussing, and setting goals together for your family and for the future.
My husband and I like to picture where we hope to be in 5, 10, even 20 years down the line. What visions we have for teaching our kids and shaping our family, what financial goals we have successfully met, and how we hope to remain in love as the years go by.
We love to watch elderly couples interact around us. In fact, it’s our greatest hope and prayer for our marriage that someday we will be that cute, adorable old couple holding hands after 60+ years of marriage.
Even if you can only get away for a few hours together, time away with your spouse is the perfect way to connect, dream, and pray together.
Can I just say that our overnight was the first time that I have slept soundly through the night, with no one waking up and calling out for me since my son was born?
That’s right, it has been over three years!
If you are a Mama of young ones you can probably relate, but let me just tell you how great it felt to go to sleep and stay asleep until my body naturally woke me up.
Not only did we get to sleep, but we got to lay in bed in the morning and watch TV, and not a PBS kids show which is normally on in the mornings, but something that we actually enjoyed watching.
I even got time to finish a book I was reading!!!! Lounging in bed on a Monday morning with no responsibilities is truly a once in a while gift.
Sometimes you just need to get away to get the rest we so desperately need.
If we would have stayed at home and had the kids spend the night with grandma, I don’t think we would have gotten the same amount of rest. Sure I still would have been able to sleep through the night uninterrupted, but I would probably still be thinking about the laundry that needed to be done, or the dishes in the dishwasher that need to be put away, or whatever chore or task that needs to be done.
By removing ourselves from our home for the night, we were both able to rest by being away from the demands and responsibilities of the home.
Let’s get past the elephant in the room… 🙂 yes there is great intimacy to be had by getting away for a night.
No worries about a child waking up, crying, or barging in (it happens!) Just together, the two of you, is so important for your relationship.
God designed us for marital intimacy and it’s something that should be enjoyed together.
I realize you can easily enjoy these 3 benefits without going away if your budget doesn’t allow for it currently, but I hope to inspire you to plan on creating a budget to try to get away with your spouse, at least, once a year.
Our marriages are the most important human relationship we can foster, even over our children.
Our kids benefit from a strong, healthy, God-centered marriage!
So spend some time planning on how you and your husband can have some time away together soon, trust me… you’ll enjoy it!
This was very lovely…. We try so hard to have romance before the marriage but it is necessary to maintain…
So true Richetta!
My husband and I got away, kid-free, this weekend also.
Budget guru is my hubby’s middle name. He got very creative and we went tent camping, $22/night, and geocaching, free. If you don’t know what geocaching is check it out here: http://www.geocaching.com Our kids are old enough that they can stay home by themselves, or doled out to friends, and we ate sausages on tortillas, fruit and eggs.
It was great fun. There was no TV or computer to distract. We went to bed at the same time. It was cold outside so there was lots of cuddling. And I finally found a cache without some kiddo beating me to it first. It felt like being back in high school when we still figured out fun things to do even though we were always broke.
That is so sweet Marla! Glad you and your husband got away. I have to admit I’m not a camper, but you made it sound lovely 🙂
Great tips, Victoria! With kids as young as ours, time away is a must. Unfortunately it doesnt happen more than once or twice a yr for us, but we’ll get there!
SO true, we had been planning our overnight for over a year before it finally happened! But despite all the work that does go into planning a nice, quick get away, it’s so worth it.
Great tips and it sounds like you had a needed and great escape. 🙂 Blessings…Sharing a quote of your on my Longings End FB page.
Thanks so much Sheila!
We havent had a night alone since before our first was born, about 6 years ago, but we dont feel that it has had a negative effect on our marriage. While a weekend, or even a night, away alone will be lovely when it happens, we accept the stage of life we are at right now. We have found other ways to foster our marriage at this time and are closer than we have ever been, in spite of the fact that we have had night wakings and at least one child in our bed for the last 6 years 😉 Our desire right now is just to have a family vacation, as we have never had that time to just focus on family (joys of being full time farmers, there is always work that needs to be done).
I truly belive that marriages can be fostered without leaving your children. Not that I find fault with anyone that does so. I just want people who aren’t able to go away, for whatever reason, to know that it isnt a necessity and they shouldn’t feel guilty for not being able or not choosing to do so. Your marriage can still thrive.
Tessa I completely agree with you, you don’t have to get away for an overnight to enhance your marriage. I realize not everyone can swing it for a variety of reasons and I probably should have emphasized more that even a few hours away with your husband for a date night or even a walk around the block alone (or in your case around the farm) 🙂 can be so great for your marriage. It isn’t about spending money and going anywhere, rather finding creative ways to have some intentional one on one time together. It sounds like you and your husband have a good system going. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Great post! Makes me want to go plan a get-away right now! 🙂 You’ll be featured on this week’s Thrive at Home Thursday link-up. Thanks for sharing!
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