One of my goals this year was to go on an overnight date away with my husband. Since Monday was President’s Day and he had a three day weekend, we knew that this would be the perfect way to wrap up birthday week. With a little planning and scouting out some great deals, we were not only able to get away for a night but we are also able to do it on a budget too!
- We utilized Groupon to score a fantastic dinner at a local steak house that we don’t normally get to eat at very often since it’s so expensive.
- My husband worked his mad negotiating skills to nab a killer deal on a hotel room for one night (I’m also pretty sure that staying overnight on a Sunday night was beneficial too, save that tip for later!).
- Thanks to family being more than willing to spend some extra time with the grandkids, we were able to receive free babysitting!
So while we did have to budget some money specifically for this overnight, a little planning and seeking out some great deals really made our buck travel far…. and it was so worth it!
If you haven’t planned an overnight get away with your spouse, may I suggest that you try to plan one soon? I realize not everyone can get away and that some budgets are really tight, but if you can swing it with some creative planning I know you and your husband would greatly benefit from 24 hours away from your kids.
My husband and I meet weekly to go over our calendars, the finances, and plans but sometimes the day-to-day duties of parenting, work, and home management can limit our vision of our big picture goals. By spending intentional time away with just your husband, you are allowing to spend time specifically talking about, discussing, and setting goals together for your family and for the future.
My husband and I like to picture where we hope to be in 5, 10, even 20 years down the line. What visions we have for teaching our kids and shaping our family, what financial goals we have successfully met, and how we hope to remain in love as the years go by. We love to watch elderly couples interact around us. In fact it’s our greatest hope and prayer for our marriage that someday we will be that cute, adorable old couple holding hands after 60+ years of marriage.
Even if you can only get away for a few hours together, time away with your spouse is the perfect way to connect, dream, and pray together.
Can I just say that our overnight was the first time that I have slept soundly through the night, with no one waking up and calling out for me, since my son was born. That’s right, it has been over three years! If your a Mama of young ones you can probably relate, but let me just tell you how great it felt to go to sleep and stay asleep until my body naturally woke me up.
Not only did we get to sleep, but we got to lay in bed in the morning and watch TV, and not PBS kids which is normally on in the mornings, but something that we actually enjoyed watching. I even got time to finish a book I was reading! Lounging in bed on a Monday morning with no responsibilities is truly a once in a while gift.
Sometimes you just need to get away to get the rest we so desperately need. If we would have stayed at home and had the kids spend the night with grandma, I don’t think we would have gotten the same amount of rest. Sure I still would have been able to sleep through the night uninterrupted, but I would probably still be thinking about the laundry that needed to be done, or the dishes in the dishwasher that need to be put away, or whatever chore or task that needs to be done. By removing ourselves from our home for the night, we were both able to rest by being away from the demands and responsibilities of the home.
Let’s get past the elephant in the room… 🙂 yes there is great intimacy to be had by getting away for a night. No worries about a child waking up, crying, or barging in (it happens!) Just together, the two of you, is so important for your relationship. God designed us for marital intimacy and it’s something that should be enjoyed together.
I realize you can easily enjoy these 3 benefits without going away if your budget doesn’t allow for it currently, but I hope to inspire you to plan on creating a budget to try to get away with your spouse, at least, once a year. Our marriages are the most important human relationship we can foster, even over our children. Our kids benefit from a strong, healthy, God-centered marriage. So spend some time planning on how you and your husband can have some time away together soon, trust me… you’ll enjoy it!
What frugal strategies do you utilize to save up for occasional get-aways with your husband? What additional benefits do you experience for your marriage?
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