I have a little confession to make, it sort of bothers me that we need a specific day in February to remind us to tell the people in our lives just how much we love them. Shouldn’t we be doing this everyday?
Yes we should, but so often we don’t.
As busy women, sometimes it can be easy to overlook our most important relationship on a daily basis… our husbands. I don’t know about you, but I get so caught up in my children or managing the home, I sometimes neglect my husband. I have been made aware of this, and after repenting to him, I have vowed to find simple ways to bless my husband on a more consistent basis.
It doesn’t take much but these 5 ways to bless your husband are meaningful, thoughtful and are simple. Best of all, they don’t cost any money either!
1. Send a quick text
True story: last year I sent my husband a text message that read, “I love you.” I sent it to him in the middle of a regular work day for no particular reason but just to say I loved him. Well five minutes later he called and asked if I was OK! After reassuring him that everything was fine, I told him I just wanted to tell him that I loved him. I could almost see his smile through the phone.
Sending short, quick, sweet text messages don’t require a whole lot of extra time or effort but they really could bless your husband’s whole day. Such a simple way to express your feelings for him. You could easily do this daily, or once every few days.
2. Write a love note
When you have a little more time available to you, why not right him a note telling him how much you love and respect him? Even if you’re not especially gifted with words, listing out some ways you are thankful for all of his hard work could really do a number to boost his confidence.
You can make it as playful or romantic as you wish. You can list out all the attributes that made you fall in love with him in the first place, as well as specific examples of things he has done recently you really appreciated.
To make it even more fun, hide it in his briefcase or bag for him to find it later on the day, or you could even mail it to him at work (just make sure it’s specifically addressed to him though!) 🙂
3. Speak words of praise about him to others
Don’t fall into the trap of complaining about your husband with other women. Sometimes well meaning women’s groups (play dates, book clubs, Bible studies, etc.) can unintentionally turn into a husband bashing season. Take the opportunity to turn the conversation around by saying something like, “I know my husband and I are very different, but I feel so blessed to have him in my life. He is such a great dad!”
Also look for ways to praise him in front of others when he is present. Lift him up in front of family or friends of things he has done recently. Just be sensitive to his feelings of embarrassment as well. You want to bless him, not offend or embarrass him.
4. Pray for him
As Christian wives this may seem obvious, but sometimes it often gets overlooked.
If we are not actively praying for our husbands, then who is?
Daily lift him up in prayer, especially as he goes off to work. Our husbands face so many challenges and temptations everyday. Pray for his work day and integrity as he deals with others.
Also if he is open to it, ask him specific ways you can pray for him. What areas does he feel like he is struggling in? Help him feel like he can overcome anything by taking the time to pray for him. Better yet, pray with him too!
5. Touch him
Aside from the obvious forms of touch and affection in marriage, find creative and fun ways to touch him during the day. The first time I was convicted of this was shortly after our first son was born. My husband made a comment how he wished I would kiss him as often as I was kissing the baby. Ouch! I quickly realized just how much affection I was giving to my son, while I was virtually ignoring my husband.
Touch his back, give him a passionate kiss as he leaves for work, run your hands through his hair, hold his hand, give him a “love tap” as you pass by him, my personal favorite. The possibilities are endless!
Also do some of these in front of the kids to show them just how much in love you are. They may act grossed out, but kids love to feel the security of their parent’s love for one another and it’s healthy to show them some ways God designed the marriage relationship to be.
None of these simple ways to bless your husband cost a thing, except for a little extra effort on your part. While it may not sound too romantic, one of the best ways I remember to actually do some of these things are to write them down in my calendar. Let’s face it, we are all busy women with husbands, kids, work, and home management chores to take up most of our focus. It’s perfectly fine to write down little ways to bless your husband in your calendar as a way to actually remember to do them!